When it’s time, it’s time

Losing a child is one of THE most devastating things a parent can go through. You tend to want to hang onto their things as long as you possibly can, even something as odd as a dish scrubber! The day we went to clear out his house, I was so broken and while packing up the kitchen and there sat a dish scrubber, the kind with the soap in the handle. I know he touched that scrubber only days before. His finger prints still had to be on it, right? Maybe it still smelled like him? So, I took that scrubber and put it in the box to come home to our house and have used it daily for 3 years….3years!!! Today I looked at that scrubber and thought to myself that perhaps I am meant to share this experience with all of you. Seems silly that a dish scrubber can mean so much! So, as I was saying, I looked at that scrubber today and it looked tired. It sits on my sink, usually empty because it goes through soap so fast! I think that I am just about ready to let that scrubber go. I know he probably gets a kick out of it and is likely saying “mom, it’s a frickin’ dish scrubber, not me”, but you can only let go when you can let go. There are still many of his things I hang onto and probably will forever and that’s ok. The point of this blog is just to say, everyone grieves differently. No matter how ridiculous something may look to you, it obviously isn’t to the person who has suffered such an incredible loss. Some things can only happen when the time is right. I stand with you and support you and hold you in love, when you decide that it’s time. Until then do what you need to do unapologetically…….L. Adelle ( ladelleiverson.com)